Relationships change when 
caring starts

THE relationship between the cared for and the carer is challenging to say the least.  

The cared for often has difficulty transitioning to being cared for.  

• They made the decisions. 
• They did the caring.  
• They were responsible.  
• Now others are making the decisions. 
• Now others are caring for them. 
• Now they don't have any responsibilities. 

How would you cope with the changes?

Caring isn't just about the physical caring it is also about the emotional side of caring and being aware of how important it is to acknowledge that changes can affect everyone on the caring journey.  

The old saying "walk a mile in another's shoes' comes to mind.  

Just imagine how frustrating it must be to be told by your child what to do and when to do it.  I know I wouldn't like my son telling me what to do! 

Relationships like any living thing need to be nurtured and tended often if you want them to flourish.  

Giving some attention to relationships will help the caring journey go easier.  

Listen to your aged loved one - we all like to be heard.  

Include your aged loved one in decisions - being included in the decision making will help them understand why things are changing.  

Honest and respectful communication - speak to them how you would like to be spoken to.  

If it is becoming too challenging don't be afraid to call in the professionals - sometimes our aged loved ones will listen to a professional before they listen to us.  

A qualified mediator is often better than a family member who brings their own judgements and history to the situation.  

Yes there is a cost involved with hiring a mediator but saving a relationship is priceless.   

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